Kids with parents who emphasize kindness over academic achievement are happier, and get higher grades
According to a recent study, children whose parents value kindness over academic achievements tend to have lower stress levels, less anxiety issues, better self-esteem and even better grades.
Researchers asked 506 sixth-graders to rank what they believed was most valued by their parents. The list included three achievement-oriented goals and three oriented toward pro-social behavior.
They found students whose parents valued grades over kindness to others did not get better grades, but did have elevated stress levels, especially if the parent was critical.
Therefore, the researchers suggested that parents should focus on being supportive when a child is struggling academically. They should ask their child how they can help, rather than being critical.